How to skip the ‘but.’

Yes, and…
Improv lessons teach us to answer questions and comments with ‘yes and’ instead any negative word such as no or but.

Did you know ‘but’ is a negative word?

Even if your sentence before the but seems positive, the but will cause your listener to only focus on the negative starting with the but.

So instead, say ‘yes, and’ …
such as: and here is how I see it.
and perhaps there is another option to consider.
and I’d like to think about your idea.

Yes and does not mean you are in complete agreement or have agreed to take their recommendation in whole. It does show you are listening and including what they offered in the decision process moving forward. And after further thought you may end up agreeing with them. You are keeping your options open.

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