Do you remember taking an IQ test in school? The results were shared with your parents but not you. Having a high IQ apparently didn’t mean you were smart enough to handle the information. Some schools even divided students into the smart classes and the not smart classes.
Emotional Intelligence Pictured
The Faces of Emotional Intelligence
Research proved that what teachers were told about how smart (high IQ) a student was impacted how well that student did in class. It affected the teacher’s expectations which then affected what they did and said to the student. In the end it affected how well that student did in school.
Now we understand that IQ is not completely fixed. We can grow in the areas tested as IQ.
And now we also understand that success in life is even more affected by your EQ, emotional intelligence. How you understand and handle yourself, your own emotions. And how you understand and interact with other personalities. This, too, is something you can learn and improve.
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There are so many good things that happen when you learn to use mind mapping that I had to make you a mind map to show them all…and there are even more than the ones that I listed.
I’d like to hear the reasons it would be helpful to you. Would you like to learn to pay attention and take notes better when listening to someone speak, or when you are reading a book or article? Would you like it to be easier to review notes you made instead of laboriously rereading all of the sentences? Would you like to be able to have collaborative meetings with others over Zoom or another online shared meeting? An that could be just the beginning of the advantages of learning to mind map.
What would be your reasons or interests in mind mapping? Let me know.
When you hear someone say something with which you disagree, instead of immediately giving your opinion, start asking questions.Help me understand how you reached that conclusion?Where have you seen this happen?What resources did you use? Could there be any other viewpoint we could look at?Could there be some examples from other industries, countries, or cultures?How can I learn more about this topic?Are there some authors who write about this topic?Who are they?
What or where can we explore to understand more about this topic?
Sometimes a topic or opinion is not that important or doesn’t seem to have enough depth to explore.Even then questioning may also lead to great new insights and important related topics.
If it is important enough to have disparate opinions maybe it is important enough to explore through a mind map.
June 2, 1942 – April 13, 2019
Tony Buzan is the person who brought mind mapping into my and many people’s world. He taught us and pushed us to use color and art and our brain processes as we organized ideas and brought out our own creativity. His voice, his British accent, is in my head as I think of all his books that I have read, all the times I recommended his Mind Mapping for Kids book, and all the times I shared the advantages of mind mapping with an audience. Thank you Tony Buzan.
Is this a compliment or an insult?
If you are truly one of the knowledgeable ones in a particular field, others may be looking up to you, expecting you to know more than they do. They may come to you with questions and take what you say as truth.
We can learn from what we know about Socrates (470 – 399 BC), after all these years, not to jump in with a solution, an answer. First ask many questions so that you both are thinking more deeply about the problem. In many cases the person with the problem will discover the answer.
One of Stephen Covey’s 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, “seek first to understand before seeking to be understood,” is a more current reminder to listen, ask questions, learn, before offering your thoughts, even if you are considered a thought leader.
When an employee, family member, or friend brings you problem they are facing, how can you tell if they want solutions from you or for you to just listen?
Also if they are looking for a solution, ask first what they have tried or thought they could try. Get them thinking first.
Then if it does come down to offering your ideas, offer options, plural, so they can choose, and make it clear that these are ideas that if they choose something different you won’t be hurt. The choice is still their own.
Questions are a sign of intelligence, of interest, of curiosity, of caring about the other person and the topic, and of being a critical thinker. Can you think of anything else you can say that is this powerful?
Questions, to be able to drink in that power, must be paired with power listening.
Once you ask that question, it is essential that you become silent, wait for and pay attention to the answer.
Some people try to answer their own questions. Some think that the other person pausing to think before answering means they don’t know what to answer.
Just like asking the question is a sign of interest in the other person, waiting and paying attention to the answer is a sign of respect.
Even if your company is working hard on inclusiveness and diversity, it is important to pay attention to how you get everyone equal ‘floor time’ in the meeting. How do you do that?
One way is to use silent and anonymous idea generation. Hand out a pile of sticky note paper or 3×5 cards. Challenge everyone to come up with a minimum of 5 ways to solve a problem you’ve been working on or a new way to market a declining product. No talking and no sharing during this initial thinking and writing time.
Then all ideas get put up equally on a flip chart or white board. Organize by categories or similarity.
All ideas are valuable, some will work on their own. Most will work better in combination with others on the board. Some can be expanded by discussion.
You may decide to organize the ideas by how long they would take to do a trial or to implement in general, or by cost, effort, or ROI. You may even decide to try out the most outrageous first because standing out is better than blending in and being boring.
Why do some people find ‘simple’ mathematics problems so impossible. I used common fractions for my research but it wouldn’t matter which specific concept I had chosen.
The answer I discovered and proved was that children and adults alike, who had a mental model of the concept, could solve the math problems. Those who didn’t were using rote rules that had no meaning, no models in their mind, so they made mistakes or gave up. They often could follow the rules successfully as long as the next problem looked exactly like the last one. If presented a problem that looked different, they couldn’t picture how to modify the rules, they couldn’t see where or how it matched up to the last one or something they had seen before.
Mental models are built by drawing, building with objects, and imagining.
One type of mental model that can help with thinking clearly and making strong decisions is the mind map. It helps you brainstorm lots of options and then it organizes those options for consideration.