What makes a great coach? Everyone needs a coach. Even the best players in sports use coaches. Coaches may not be physically better than the recipient of the coaching but they are observant and great at asking questions that make the recipient more aware. They help the recipient learn and improve.
We may need someone to remind, to listen, to be a better alter ego, to catch us when we fall, to pick us back up and encourage.
We can’t always see our own faults. Sometimes we need the coach to be a magnifying mirror.
Think about how you learned to ride a bike. Your coach, probably your Mom or Dad or a neighbor, held the back of the seat to steady the bike as you got a feel for balancing. They ran along, picked you and the bike up if you fell, maybe disinfected and bandaged the scrapes, and let go at the appropriate time.
During this difficult time I do all my coaching virtually, but I forecast that virtual will continue even when we can get back together so that distance doesn’t become a problem. You will be able to choose a coach from anywhere in the world, you may even decide to choose me.
Do you remember taking an IQ test in school? The results were shared with your parents but not you. Having a high IQ apparently didn’t mean you were smart enough to handle the information. Some schools even divided students into the smart classes and the not smart classes.
Emotional Intelligence Pictured
The Faces of Emotional Intelligence
Research proved that what teachers were told about how smart (high IQ) a student was impacted how well that student did in class. It affected the teacher’s expectations which then affected what they did and said to the student. In the end it affected how well that student did in school.
Now we understand that IQ is not completely fixed. We can grow in the areas tested as IQ.
And now we also understand that success in life is even more affected by your EQ, emotional intelligence. How you understand and handle yourself, your own emotions. And how you understand and interact with other personalities. This, too, is something you can learn and improve.
Let me know if you would like to know more about this subject.
What does it Mean to Think Like Leonardo de Vinci?
He combined art and science in everything he did. His sculpture and paintings incorporated science and his knowledge of the human body, muscles, and structure.
And his exploration of scientific topics was documented with beautiful, artistic drawings.
You can combine art and science in your own thinking. You can also combine your analytical left-brain thinking and creative right-brain thinking by taking notes using a mind map.
There are so many good things that happen when you learn to use mind mapping that I had to make you a mind map to show them all…and there are even more than the ones that I listed.
I’d like to hear the reasons it would be helpful to you. Would you like to learn to pay attention and take notes better when listening to someone speak, or when you are reading a book or article? Would you like it to be easier to review notes you made instead of laboriously rereading all of the sentences? Would you like to be able to have collaborative meetings with others over Zoom or another online shared meeting? An that could be just the beginning of the advantages of learning to mind map.
What would be your reasons or interests in mind mapping? Let me know.
Helping Others Learn
The well known old Chinese proverb says, If you give a person a fish, he eats for a day, if you teach him to fish, you feed him for life.
Teaching a concept to others is like that. They learn and can apply the concept. But teach someone how to learn, how to increase their knowledge, and you have given them a gift for life.
Teach someone how to read or listen effectively, so they remember what they read or heard, is like teaching them to fish.
Most people hardly listen. They can’t remember someone’s name nor what they said. When you learn to listen for content and context, for the meaning, then you will remember and those who feel listened to will remember you for that appreciation you showed.
Business expressions are often borrowed (or maybe stolen) from sports.
In baseball, the curve ball is one of the hardest pitches to hit and hit accurately. The pitch itself is thrown with a hard spin of the ball, causing the ball to drop or veer suddenly when it approaches home plate, while also maintaining a high speed (unlike the standard changeup). Its purpose is to “throw” the batter off or come as a surprise when not expected, causing them to swing and miss. Some of the best and hardest hitters in the game can train their whole life to be a great ball player, but the curve ball can slow them down very quickly when not prepared [just ask Pedro Serrano in the movie, “Major League”].
In business [and life], we use the expression to mean something unexpected, difficult to deal with, an obstacle, or a problem, especially a problem not foreseen. We can be really good at what we have in front of us, our daily routines, our normal tasks [the fastballs in life]. But those curve balls are what can really change our perspective and force us to take a step back, re-analyze, re-evaluate. That curve ball can be any size [or speed], from a slight change in a project, a cancellation of an event, or a big as a job loss, or a pandemic that changes the entire focus of a business.
We can also learn from the legal field and negotiation methods, just like those successful baseball players who practice hitting any and every form of a curve ball that is possible. A lawyer getting ready for a trial prepares for any and every question the opposition may ask. In negotiations, one brainstorms (see brainstorming techniques in several of my blogs on the subject) a list of every adverse possibility to be ready.
Now, in baseball and in business, a curve ball is expected and is more commonly thrown. It’s also evolved, with multiple versions, speeds, and occurrences. It’s extremely important to study each player, person, and scenario to know who can throw that curve ball, and when. Today, the best hitters in baseball, and the best business professionals, have made their way to the top by not only being able to predict when a curve ball will be thrown, but also being prepared and ready to “hit it out of the park” and continue to be successful.
Just as the term comes from baseball, we can learn from the sport on how to be more prepared for a situation coming ‘out of left field’; again, a baseball term. If we can be more prepared and ready for when a curve ball is thrown our way, we will be more successful as a person, a professional, and a business.
This blogpost was jointly written by
Baseball and sports marketing expert Riley Wancket
Author, Speaker, Business Brain Booster,
Hazel Wagner, PhD, MBA, BBB
When you hear someone say something with which you disagree, instead of immediately giving your opinion, start asking questions.Help me understand how you reached that conclusion?Where have you seen this happen?What resources did you use? Could there be any other viewpoint we could look at?Could there be some examples from other industries, countries, or cultures?How can I learn more about this topic?Are there some authors who write about this topic?Who are they?
What or where can we explore to understand more about this topic?
Sometimes a topic or opinion is not that important or doesn’t seem to have enough depth to explore.Even then questioning may also lead to great new insights and important related topics.
If it is important enough to have disparate opinions maybe it is important enough to explore through a mind map.
The late Tony Buzan called mind maps the Swiss Army knife for your brain
Mind maps turn ideas and thinking into a colorful diagram. It is a way to transfer your thoughts to paper (or your screen) and then imprint it more visually and permanently to your memory.
You can use mind mapping for organizing, presenting, explaining, planning, learning, negotiating, taking notes, and making notes.
All you need is a piece of paper turned horizontally and some pens or pencils, preferably, but not required, in several colors. The different colors make the process more fun and the resulting drawing more memorable.
Improve your critical and creative thinking using mind maps
Slow down your thought process a bit by creating clarity instead of speed.Analyze options including pros and cons.View and share the options considered.Explore alternatives on paper or your computer screen in one visual that you add to, change, cross out as you go.Mind maps are easy to follow, easy to review, and easy to use as an explanation.
Questions are a sign of intelligence and also of interest, curiosity , and caring about the other person and topic. So don’t hold back.
Then listen to the answers, listen intently, listen to understand, listen for the meaning. Be careful that your questions are sincere rather than a way for you to introduce what you have to say. As Stephen Covey said, “seek to understand before seeking to be understood.”